Love In The Time Of Gay Marriage
The Article: And Baby Makes Five: Modern Love In The Era Of Gay Marriage by Julie Weiner in Vanity Fair.
The Text: I first met Martin’s ex-boyfriend at a tuxedo shop on lower Fifth Avenue. I had known Martin had been living with Ted six months before we starting dating. Through his and Martin’s shared DVD collection, I had known Ted’s affinity for French New Wave and the Weekend at Bernie’s series; through Martin’s closet, Ted’s old Yale sweatshirts; through Martin’s maritime trinkets and hand-selected seashells, I had learned of Ted’s family’s cottage on Martha’s Vineyard.
But before that blustery October day, when I introduced myself to Ted and greeted him with a hug, I had never known of Ted’s easy warmth, unreserved kindness, and sleepy, autumnal smell. I walked into the tuxedo shop the day before my wedding to Martin for a last-minute alteration. What I ended up altering was all three of our lives.
I invited Ted home to the prewar town house that Martin and I had recently purchased on King Street, in a liminal, industrial area between SoHo and the West Village.